It’s that time again. Time to say goodbye to the old year and bring in the new. Some are celebrating, others are exhausted. New Year’s resolutions are being made and alcohol is being bought. Last year I resolved to eat better and exercise. I did that…sometimes. I weigh exactly the same as I did this time last year. I’m going to strike it up as a maintain and try again. I also resolved to write more, I maintained the blog so I’m counting it. No great American novels being started but hey, there’s always next year.
Goal setting is an integral part of our growth. It shouldn’t be just a once-a-year event, but instead, a continuous process that morphs and changes as we grow and mature. Yes, I will be making a resolution to eat better and exercise more. Yes, I will fail miserably. Yes, I will tell myself to do it again in March. I will continue to set that goal because it is too important not to. I know I’m not going to jog down a beach in a bikini in slow motion, but I need to be heart healthy and keep my energy levels up and my endorphins active. I will also continue to feed my creativity and passions because that’s what we live for. Happiness doesn’t come from an easy life, it comes from allowing ourselves to be our best selves.
Timber Hawkeye, founder of Buddhist Boot Camp, shared a tradition he and his friends do; they take pieces of paper and write down what they want to leave behind and not bring with them into the new year. They then burn the pieces of paper in a large bowl to symbolize their release. What would you let go of? Resentment, anger, jealousy, impatience? Maybe a bad habit or a bad relationship? Would you let go of a bad job? Self-hatred or self-pity?
Whatever resolutions you may or not be making as we say goodbye to 2017, (I’m saying good riddance, get the hell out, hasta la vista) here are a few that we should all be making…
–Take care of YOU! Get some rest, let go of toxic relationships, go for a walk, have dinner with a friend. Make sure that self-care is a priority.
–Smile more. There’s enough anger and hate in this world, share a smile. Smiles are contagious but way more enjoyable than the flu. It not only helps the recipient, it will make you feel better as well.
–Be kind. Do we really have to explain this?? Yes, unfortunately. The present nature of society is to brag at how we told off the clerk at the store for the policy we disagreed with; flip off the driver who inconvenienced us; choose to belittle as opposed to discuss differing opinions. Being nice has become one of our greatest challenges when it should be our first reaction. Just be nice.
–Be fair. Treat everyone equally and do not judge based on economic standing, social status, race, religion, gender, or sexual orientation. We are all human and diversity is what makes us beautiful.
–Raise each other up. Stop making life a competition! Moms are arguing over parenting techniques. There is backstabbing in the workplace and relationships are destroyed by gossip. Stop, just stop.
–Ease up on yourself. You are going to have bad days. You will make bad decisions. You will say things you wish you hadn’t. It’s ok, we’re not perfect. Don’t beat yourself up.
My wish for all of you is that 2018 is your best year yet. I wish you happiness, longevity, health, and peace. Much love.